Men, Women, the communication breakdown.
Created and posted for your consideration by Matthew Glenn at 9:19 AMI want to share a small personal story that happened last night. I had a very long day yesterday. My dear little daughter Sophie had decided to wake up around 3:30 A.M. and didn't go down again till after 5 A.M. My wife woke up at 9 A.M. which then woke me up again, and I finally crawled out of bed around noonish. I spent the afternoon playing with Sophie, playing with Twitter, and checking this blog regularly before having to head out for work at 4 P.M.
So I spent the evening till about Midnight at the restaurant, and I walked in the door to our little townhome, and kissed my wife hello. She was doing some dishes and organizing the kitchen like she does normally when she is waiting up for me to come home, and I told her I was tired, was going to shower, and change clothes. So I walked through the living room and was bout to go upstairs when I noticed the large Costco diaper box, my wife's purse, and some other things piled at the base of the stairs. Thinking to my tired self, "I wonder if she wants these things upstairs or down here.." I looked to the kitchen, didn't see her (she was probably around the corner), thought "well, Luiza and Sophie are probably asleep I shouldn't yell to Lisiane and ask if she wants them upstairs, and she didn't say anything when I walked in.." So I figured, if my wife wanted them upstairs she would have asked me to do so. 
WRONG WRONG WRONG! So apparently she DID want me to take the items upstairs but I didn't get the clue. She came upstairs a few minutes later very irritated I hadn't taken the box and things upstairs for her. My initial reaction was "Honey, you didn't ask me to, had you asked me to, I would have done it with out complaint" She responded "But I left them at the foot of the stairs.."
And that Ladies and Gentleman is the root of the problem. The Human Race, for whatever God's reason, didn't see fit to bless us with the power of discernment, or the ability to read minds. And this seems to be a major problem in marriages. People can't read minds, and so Open, Honest, Communication needs to happen in couples.
I can't read minds, if you want me to do something, you need to communicate with me in the quickest and simplest manner possible! I don't like mind games, guessing games or trying to guess what YOU MEANT to say. Just be clear, okay? If you want something for your birthday, or an anniversary, or just because you like it, SAY IT! Honey, I WANT THAT! Okay, sure no problem, right away. Or No, sorry you're crazy! It's really not that hard people. Studies show that most marriages fail because of 1) Money and 2) Sex, I would venture a guess that communication problems are right up there in the top 5. You know when those stupid celebrities get married and divorced like a year later and file under Irreconcilable Differences??? Yea that's the legal term for I'm a freakin idiot and can't communicate with my partner.
Okay, so thus ends my rant, post your thoughts, comments, stories, hate mail, etc below,
Until Later,
Liberal Mormon.
However all across the world leaving things at the bottom of the stairs means please take up and leaving things at the top of the stairs means please take down... I'm sure it isn't just Women who know that.
We think completely differently! That's why communication is so important in a marriage. And when you throw kids in the mix, the blame game gets played a lot, frustration is on the rise, patience is on the wane and nerves are shot.
I'm sure your wife was thinking that you aren't making her life any easier, but you are right in that she could have just asked.
Very insightful (for a man) LOL.